Over the last month, you’ve learned about the first half of my Six Rules for Leading With Intention, including:
Embracing the next level of our Wholehearted Leadership Revolution requires you to let go of expectations and practice Rule Four!
Detach From Outcomes
When I was a freshman at UCLA serving on our residence hall leadership board, one of my advisors shared something invaluable: “Leslie, you can plan the event, but you can never plan the outcome.” Her wise words still echo in my head whenever I catch myself trying to control situations or cling too tightly to my expectations for how something (or someone!) should be.
As long as you’re attached to the outcome, you remain a victim of circumstance. Tweet This!
You give your power away to the unknown of the future, instead of reveling in what is known and true in the present and the wisdom and experiences of the past.
To practice wholehearted leadership, you must thoughtfully consider your desired outcomes, set resonant intentions, and strategically plan without basing your success on any certain outcome. While this is hard, it is necessary to be a peace with the work you create.
Take some time to work through these questions.
- How often do you base your success on a certain outcome instead of the effort you put forth? Consider how this makes you feel about your work.
- What environments or relationships do you find yourself trying to control via your expectations? Take a moment to realign with your values and release your desire to have things happen in a certain way.
- Instead of being a victim of circumstance, how do you want to choose to live? Complete the following phrase as a Personal Proclamation for Success: “My success is defined by…”
We all have areas that we tend to want to be more in control of in our lives.
Health and wellbeing. Our marriages. Personal time. Identify one area of your life where you default to controlling, rather than allowing life to unfold. Chances are there are certain things in this particular relationship or situation that matter a whole lot to you – so much that you can’t imagine having it not turn out the way you anticipate and desire!
Yet working on this hard-to-control outcomes takes a lot of time, energy, and focus away from actually living your life.
What are you ready to release to create space in your life to feel more energized? Tweet This!
Consider your Personal Proclamation for Success that you created above. How does it help you shift your perspective and detach from any particular outcome? Use this insight to create a different way of being around the area you chose so you can focus on what really matters, rather than staying a victim to circumstance.
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Create a great day,